Co-parenting isn’t easy—especially when the plan you both agreed to starts falling apart. Maybe one parent stops showing up. Maybe schedules are ignored, communication breaks down, or the child’s needs are no longer being met consistently. When parenting plans go off track, it can leave the responsible parent feeling helpless, frustrated, or uncertain about what steps to take—especially without the help of a lawyer.
In Florida, co-parenting plans—also known as parenting plans—are legally binding documents that outline how time-sharing, decision-making, and responsibilities will be divided between parents. When a parent consistently violates the plan, it becomes more than just an emotional issue; it becomes a legal one. But not every parent can afford a lawyer or knows where to begin. The good news is Florida offers court-approved forms and resources that allow parents to take action on their own.
Recognizing a Broken Parenting Plan
Sometimes it’s clear when a parenting plan is not being followed: a parent stops showing up for scheduled visits, refuses to return the child on time, or makes major decisions without consulting the other parent. Other times, it’s more subtle—such as constantly changing plans at the last minute or ignoring agreed-upon communication rules. These repeated violations can create instability for the child and conflict between parents.
Florida law emphasizes that both parents should have “frequent and continuing contact” with their children unless there’s a valid reason to limit it (Florida Statutes § 61.13). The court considers a parent’s willingness to honor the parenting plan when making future decisions about custody or time-sharing. So even if you’re not hiring a lawyer, documenting these issues and taking steps to address them is crucial.
What You Can Do Without a Lawyer
If the other parent is not following the court-approved parenting plan, Florida allows you to seek enforcement or modifications using self-help tools available through the courts. Many of these steps can be taken without legal representation, using approved forms and instructions.
One option is to file a Motion for Civil Contempt/Enforcement if the other parent is violating a time-sharing order. This form allows you to ask the court to enforce the existing plan and hold the other parent accountable for not complying. You can find this form and others on the Florida Courts Family Law Forms site.
Another step is to request a modification of the parenting plan if circumstances have changed significantly. For example, if the other parent has become unreliable or the current arrangement no longer serves the child’s best interests, you may file a Supplemental Petition to Modify Parenting Plan/Time-Sharing Schedule.
Florida also provides guidance through self-help centers, which can help you understand which forms to file, where to file them, and how the process works. Some counties offer free or low-cost assistance through local legal aid programs, which can help review your documents even if they can’t represent you in court.
Keep Documentation
Whether you are filing a motion or just trying to manage the situation peacefully, it is essential to keep detailed records. Save texts, emails, missed visit logs, and anything else that shows how the other parent has failed to follow the plan. Courts in Florida rely heavily on documentation when deciding whether to enforce or modify parenting arrangements.
Also consider using a co-parenting communication app or platform that logs interactions and schedules. This creates a neutral record and can help you avoid “he said, she said” disputes in front of a judge. Several Florida family court judges recommend tools like OurFamilyWizard or TalkingParents to maintain transparency and reduce conflict.
Mediation as a Next Step
Florida courts often encourage mediation before returning to court. If you feel safe communicating with the other parent, you can ask the court to order mediation through the local court program. This process is often faster and less expensive than a full hearing and may help parents come to a new agreement without further damage to the co-parenting relationship.
More information on mediation services and how to request it in your circuit is available on the Florida Courts Mediation page.
Know When to Ask for Help
Self-representation is a strong option, especially when cost or access is a concern. But there are times when outside help becomes necessary. If the violations involve safety issues, substance abuse, or endangerment to the child, speak with a legal aid attorney or explore emergency relief options. Florida courts take child safety seriously, and even self-represented litigants can petition for urgent hearings in appropriate situations.
You can search for legal aid in your area through FloridaLawHelp.org or find court self-help centers through your county clerk’s website.
Final Thoughts
Co-parenting requires cooperation, but when one parent refuses to follow the rules, the system has options in place to help you respond. You don’t need to stay stuck or give up just because you can’t afford an attorney. Florida’s family court system is designed with accessible tools that empower parents to act in their child’s best interests—even when the other parent refuses to do the same.
If your co-parenting plan is falling apart, don’t wait. Learn your rights, use the tools available, and take clear steps to protect your child and restore stability to your parenting arrangement.
Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and is not legal advice. It is not intended to create an attorney-client relationship and should not be relied upon as a substitute for legal counsel. If you need legal advice specific to your situation, please contact a qualified attorney or your local legal aid organization. Laws and court procedures can change, and this information may not reflect the most recent legal developments.
